Monday, January 3, 2011

The Courage of Dating

I made a promise last week to write something on my blog with the condition that I would be given a topic to write about. The topic was dating. I don't consider myself any sort of authority on the subject. In fact, the thought, 'those who can't do, teach' comes to mind.

So, rather than offer any of my own profound insights on the subject, I'll allow Harper Lee to do it:

"I wanted you to see what real courage is, instead of getting the idea that courage is a man with a gun in his hand. It's when you know you're licked before you begin but you begin anyway and you see it through no matter what. You rarely win, but sometimes you do."

Dating can be tough. Rather than winning really only win once. But, it's important to remember that the times that you don't win only become losses when you choose not to learn something from them. I know that I have learned something new from each relationship that I've been in and I'm a better person because of it.

Knowing that the majority of the relationships that we're going to be in will either end in heartache and disappointment for one or both parties gives us the impression that we 'are licked before we begin' but we must have courage and 'begin anyway' and, more importantly, 'see it through no matter what.'

Each 'no' brings us that much closer to a 'yes'. Some have already found it. Some of us are still looking.


  1. Beautifully put! Good job, T! SEE! You're a pro at this! Keep going! :) I like your comparison to Harper's quote on courage. I've never heard that quote before, but it's true! The best part about that dare we take in "beginning anyway" is that we are made stronger for exercising our courage and one of these times it will be rewarded 10 fold. You are awesome! :) Thanks for sharing your insight...for you have much on this subject ;) Love ya!

    P.S. If you need more topics, let me know, I'm full of things I want to hear you talk about...or read you write about...? :)

  2. You're blogging again! That was quite the absence, but welcome back.

    I really like this post. Reminds me of a quote I once heard from who knows where (paraphrasing) - "Courage isn't the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear". I like the idea of not giving more power to our fears (or heartaches or disappointments) because the end result (finally winning!) is so much more important. And just look at the guy you're becoming in the process. It's refreshing! Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

    And now ... keep the posts coming!